Recall the last time you had a “crush” that sent you text, asking to hang out.
“Wanna hang out l8r? Ppl r coming over my house, would like 2 c u there :-)”
Your stomach is in knots and a wide grin spreads across your face. He wants to hang out with me?
Of course, you’d like to go, but you’ve already made plans with Cindy. So, you try to continue the conversation, letting him know you’re interested without being aggressive. But, how do you do that?
The simple solution to any text message flirting is the emoticon, with the winking emoji winning the title of “THE flirty smiley.” Adding an emoticon to any text message automatically lightens the mood, but when texting with a person of interest, the proper emoji has the power to transform the conversation, hopefully working in each party’s favor.
Emoticons are funny, in the sense that they can communicate so much, by sending so little. But, just like with everything else, there’s a proper way to use them, and a way to avoid. The most important mistakes to steer clear of are sending too many emoticons and overusing the winking emoji, which can have a negative connotation. Note the difference between these texts;
“Sure, I’ll come over later.”
“Sure, I’ll come over later ;-)”
I probably don’t need to explain why the latter text sounds suggestive.
Or, note the difference in these texts;
“Sure, I’ll come over later :-)”
“Sure, I’ll come over later 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂 :-)”
The latter text appears slightly psychotic, as you can see.
So, how do we use emojis to flirt?
When Johnny first sends his invite text, he included a smiley at the end of the sentence. This smiley communicated a friendly, inviting vibe, which would immediately have changed if the smiley were winking or crying. This is a positive way of informing you of his excitement to see you, without appearing excessive. Respond in the same manner.
“I’d like to hang out, but I made plans with Cindy already. Maybe tomorrow? :-)”
The smiley face Johnny know that you aren’t brushing him off, and that you’re excited to see him as well. However, don’t continue the texting game by including emojis at the beginning, middle or end of every sentence. That’ll appear a bit much.
Fast forward two months from now. Johnny invites you to an exquisite dinner overlooking a lake. You purchased a new sundress for the occasion, complete with a new hairstyle. After the date, he sends you a text;
“You looked beautiful tonight.”
Overcome with excitement, you want to respond accordingly, without letting him know that you’re melting. Here, the winking face can make good use.
“Thanks. You didn’t look too bad yourself ;-)”
Coy, but not suggestive or clingy. That’s the best way to text using your trustee emoticons. Always remember, less is more.
If you have earlier versions of Android devices, which lack all the interesting emojis, I suggest you download an emoji application. Trust me, they’ll come in handy.